BEWARE: The Haircut That Tells You He's an Asshole

Once upon a time I briefly dated a guy who came highly recommended by my sister's mentor. She sung his heavenly praises because years prior, he'd mentored her son. She regarded him as a "stand-up guy."

Little did she know.

He was an asshole.
And a big one.

Assholes are deftly self-centered. Because of this, Mr. Pillar-of-the-Community consistently sent me unsolicited photos of himself (which I personally thought was weird). 

*SideNote* Unless you're asking for an opinion i.e., what do you think of this dress? or you're in a vicarious predicament, don't text anyone photos of yourself. If you want the world to see how beautiful you are, hit the 'Gram. Sending a pic of your lovely smile for no reason comes off as desperate and odd. Now back to the asshole*

After our last exchange in which he took assholing to the limit, I had a light bulb moment. Like a thunderbolt, images of the haircut from all his pics burned into my mind. It was a haircut he did himself. A haircut I didn't like. A haircut I told him I didn't like. A haircut whose likability I couldn't understand. 

Why had it taken me so long to see it?

Of COURSE HE WAS AN ASSHOLE.

He had the Asshole Haircut!

The Asshole Haircut is characterized by:

• Cut very low on the sides
• Usually buzzy or "spiky" on the sides and/or top
• Square on the top 
• Crew Cuts

Men who typically wear this telling coiffure are:

Gun lovers

Homophobic

Misogynistic

Arrogant

Insecure
Argumentative

Aggressive

Needy

Anxious about money

Cocky

Know-it-Alls

Alcohol consumers
Lovers of violent sports

And most prominently,

BULLYS.

Asshole Haircut Professions:

Law-enforcement

Fire Department

Military 

Professions of authority (Coaches, Teachers, etc)

Athletes

Ladies, if you see a man with this haircut, run and run fast. His selfishness is not only debilitating, but can be dangerous. His traits do not make for a good boyfriend or husband. Aside from intimacy, the Assholism can spill into other relationships. Who wants to do business with an asshole? Or wants one teaching their children? Who wants an asshole as a person to answer to at work? Who wants an asshole waiter or salesperson assigned to help or serve you?

If at all possible, stay the fuck away from this guy. 

No man is going to tell you he's an asshole.
Fortunately, you are now equipped to speak Hairstyle. 

Let's look at some examples:

CHET:

Chet from the movie Weird Science, was a major asshole. He was in military school (clue), loved guns (clue), was homophobic (clue), misogynistic (clue) and was just a general bully (clue).

ICEMAN: 

Val Kilmer's character "Iceman" from the movie Top Gun, was an asshole. He was antagonistic, arrogant, aggressive and argumentative. He was a MILITARY pilot, and a fighter pilot no less. This can be a very arrogant career for a man considering the salary and prestige that comes with the job. #coldasice

Hank Baileygates

From the 90s movie Me, Myself and Irene, Hank Baileygates was a serious asshole. He was disturbed actually. He had a filthy mouth, drank like a fish, loved to break skulls and loved dirty, dirty sex. He too was a bully. Below he's antagonizing a little boy in a restaurant. 

Warden Norton

Warden Norton from the extraordinary movie The Shawshank Redemption, was King Asshole. He was corrupt, hypocritical, a murderer, an extortionist, a liar, a bribe taker and above all, heartless. It doesn't get anymore "asshole" than heartless. He ended up committing suicide in the film rather than face the consequences of his actions. Cowardice can be another asshole trait.

Biff

Biff from the wildly successful movie Back to the Future, was a violent and selfish bully who got what he wanted by intimidating others. He even attempted to rape one of the lead characters (Marty McFly's mother). He was an Ass to the Hole who used his fists to do the talking.

Colonel Jessup 

Colonel Jessup from A Few Good Men, was admirably devoted to the Marines way of life. He took offense to being questioned about the manner in which he protected his country. He was an arrogant alpha-male with a huge sense of entitlement. In the end, he admitted to giving the "Code Red" order that cost two Marines their lives and two innocent Marines their careers. He felt the ruining of four lives was simply par for the course.

Frank Fitts 

Retired Colonel Frank Fitts was a strict disciplinarian. He'd previously sent his son to military school and briefly committed him to a psychiatric hospital for fear that he might be gay. Frank himself was a closeted gay man who -because of his denial - was morbidly homophobic and routinely punished his son physically. In the end, Frank murdered the male neighbor who rebuffed his kiss.  

Guy I briefly dated: 

One might argue that the men referenced above are fictitious, but I believe the films' costume designers were aware of the Asshole Haircut. They gave the look to these characters because it was befitting. 

To all you lovelies out there, be leery of the Asshole Haircut.

The name is well deserved.

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-WTS.

Well, some guys will tell you.. LOL. 

5 Key Mistakes Men Make When Dating

Dating can be fun or it can a nightmare. One never knows if the date they're on will lead to marriage or a restraining order, but still we play the game. Dinners, movies, flowers, drinks. None of this will make a difference if men commit any of the key mistakes below. Better than mistakes, they're deal breakers.

Women know when men aren't being themselves.
Women know when men aren't confident (even though we don't mention it).

We don't mention it because we also know your egos have the strength of rice paper.

But we still love you! So just be yourself and be confident! You know, the way you are with your guy friends.

Just don't talk about football.

Or pick your nose.

-WTS.


1) You Don't Have A Plan

Women are attracted to men with vision. They like a man who can be assertive and knows how to handle his business. The man that shows he is capable of taking the lead in a situation will be able to grab a woman's attention. So when she asks "so where are you taking me?" Answering her with "uugghh I don't know, where do you want to go?" in most cases is already starting off on the wrong foot. Have a plan in place... but just remain flexible if it doesn't work for her. You also should be able to show you have a plan for your life. You don't have to present some 10 year vision, but be able to express some short term goals and aspirations. Don't come off looking like a boy that is lost or you may constantly find yourself as a man that's alone.


2) You Aren't Confident

Maybe you're nervous around your date. Maybe you fear she won't enjoy herself or that you will do something to blow your chances. Either way, going into dating thinking like this makes it more likely things won't go well. Women are drawn to confidence and focusing on the negative will hinder your positive energy from shining through. So shake it off and get your mind on the right track. Be confident but don't be arrogant. Focus on having a great time and there is a much better chance she will as well.


3) You're Not Being Yourself

Sometimes we want to impress a woman so much that we end up trying to be someone we're not. Getting her under the guise of your "representative" may create immediate results, but you will pay a price in the long run. Not to mention it can all backfire that same day because you come off as phony and trying too hard. So just be yourself. She needs to like you as the man you are. A man who can acknowledge and embrace the areas that could use improvement in his life. If the current man you are isn't "enough" for most, then take some more time to focus on your growth. That will yield much better results than trying to be someone else in the meantime.

4) You Talk About Sex Too Much

If you truly want to have a relationship then you have to stop always making the conversation so sexual. You don't want to make it seem like you're only interested in one thing or that you're unable to hold a good conversation. It isn't that this topic should be off limits altogether, but don't always be the one to set it in that direction. This is the time to go deeper than the physical and see if you two really do connect and enjoy each other. I would even encourage you to avoid having sex too quickly with her. I understand that this sounds ridiculous to some, but hear me out. If she's good sexually, then a man's judgment can become very clouded. You may find yourself holding on to her for the wrong reasons which will eventually lead to a failed relationship. Focus on substance, not sex.

5) You Don't Ask About Her Enough (yes HER, remember HER?)

Don't go into dating as if it is an audition. Approach it more like it is an interview. You should be trying to get to know this woman and determine if she truly is someone you want to move forward with. You can't accomplish that if you are too busy talking about you, you, and you some more. How many times does she really need to hear about that business deal you're doing, or how you stay in the gym cause you're so buff, or whatever else you think is going to impress her. Making it all about you will run the risk of quickly turning her off. Make a conscious effort to ask about how she is doing. Give her an opportunity to share her thoughts and dreams. If you ever find yourself rambling on for too long then stop yourself and say "well enough about me, tell me more about you". Be willing to talk and share things about yourself but you shouldn't let it dominate the dating process.

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Pardon Me, But I Do Not Have That Look..

Nope, you're wrong Scarface.

It only FEELS like a year.


And don't talk to me like that.


#notenoughsex #nopushymen

The Top 5 Reasons Men Kill Their Wives

Taking that "Till death do us part" line a bit seriously, eh fellas?..


Why would a man choose to kill his wife? To plot, plan, entertain the idea. Enlist abettors. Purchase the necessary supplies. Then execute?

These murders usually involve bizarre circumstances, and are often sensationalized by the media. They receive heavy coverage by news, magazines, talk shows and of course, social media. In the last 20 years "intimate killings" comprised 63.7% of all homicides.

So why has murder become a go-to for so many men?

The answer is simple.

These murdering men bend their minds to believe murder is less complicated and of course..

That they can get away with it.

In the 1950's perhaps, but with today's forensics?

Not so likely.

A few years ago, Lisa Hartwick was riding in an elevator in Boston when she overheard a conversation between two men. One of the men was going through a divorce, and he was venting to his friend about lawyers and child support payments. At that point, Hartwick recalls, the man suggested, within earshot of everyone, that maybe he should just kill his wife, that it would be cheaper and easier that way. Hartwick, the director of the Center for Violence Prevention and Recovery at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, was stunned. “I really didn’t know what to say,” she recalls. “Luckily, his friend said to him, ‘That’s a lot of money. I understand. I’m going through it myself. But you’ve got kids.”

Question: Can you talk about whether spousal homicide is a growing epidemic?

Gavin de Becker: Is spousal homicide increasing? It is not, however the reality is more disturbing than an increase. Spousal homicide has remained a constant in our lives, such that every four hours at least one woman is killed in America by a husband or boyfriend. That uninterrupted and sad statistic can be changed, because spousal homicide is the single most preventable serious crime in America, largely owing to that fact that it 

A) Always occurs after many warning signs, 

B) After several people are aware of the risk.

One of the most notorious cases of spousal homicide was the 1994 trial of O.J. Simpson, charged with the murder of his wife Nicole Brown Simpson. People were glued to the televised trial for weeks, and still speak of it almost 20 years later. Nicole left OJ with the intent of divorce and the rest is history.

75% of domestic homicides occur just after or during a wife's leaving of her husband. In most of the cases, the wife has a restraining order at the time of the murder.

Gavin De Becker: "Many homicides have occurred at the courthouse where women were seeking protection orders, or just prior to the hearings. Why? Because the murderers were allergic to rejection. They found it hard enough in private but intolerable in public. For men like this, rejection is a threat to identity, the persona, to the entire self, and in this sense their crimes could be called murder in defense of the self."

Joseph Romano, a Quincy iron-worker, killed and dismembered his wife, Katherine, in September 1998 with a power saw he had borrowed from a neighbor. He chose this, rather than leave, as his wife had apparently asked him to do.

About 10 years ago, David Adams, a licensed Psychologist, began visiting Massachusetts prisons to meet men who had killed the women they once loved. He wanted to ask that question "Why?" and discovered that their motivations fell into five categories: 

1) Jealousy; 

2) Drugs; 

3) Career criminals; 

4) Suicidal or depressed; 

5) MATERIALLY MOTIVATED.


Men in the Materially Motivated category lack emotional involvement, remorse, and a conscience. “They don’t get jealous, because they don’t care much about women,” says Adams, “They care more about the assets, and are preoccupied with money.."

In July 2000, Dr. Richard Sharpe, a rich, cross-dressing dermatologist in Gloucester, shot and killed his wife, Karen, to keep her hands off $5 million in assets.

The men involved typically, Adams says, are keeping secrets – secrets they will do almost anything to protect.

The case of Dr. Dirk Greineder – a renowned Wellesley allergist who slit the throat of his wife, Mabel, to protect his secret sex life with prostitutes.

Richard Grundy, the chief of the Massachusetts attorney general’s office, persuaded jurors that Greineder not only killed his wife to protect his secret life with prostitutes but also planned the murder for months. Greineder’s goal: Make it look like a serial killer did it. “And to do that particularly,” Grundy said, “what he had to do was slit the throat, right down to the neck bone, of the woman who brought him three children.”

These murdering men usually live in suburban homes, separated from others by their lawns and property- where neighbors can’t easily overhear fights (and hence are inevitably surprised when the wives turn up dead).They're not hardened criminals, but rather domesticated suburb dwellers. When the cops show up after these same wives turn up dead, the neighbors are shocked. Not here, they say. Not this guy. He wouldn’t choose murder over divorce, the risk of prison time over child support payments. He wouldn’t do this.

On October 23, 1989, Charles Stuart, who worked at a furrier on Newbury Street, shot his pregnant wife, Carol, in the head and then apparently shot himself as well. Stuart lived – just as he had designed it, while his wife and unborn child died – and went on to tell a sensational story about a black man who had robbed the white Reading couple. What Stuart really wanted, authorities later determined, was to open a restaurant with the money he’d get from his wife’s life insurance policy. When his wife became pregnant, that was taking him farther away from his dream. Once it was clear in January 1990 that he wasn’t going to get away with it, Stuart made a second decision: He jumped off a bridge committing suicide.

Of course, lots of men aren’t living their dreams. There are plenty who have jobs they hate but wives they love, so who exactly are the Charles Stuarts of the world?

“They’re narcissists,” says retired FBI profiler Candice De- Long. “Life is all about them.” Stuart, was said to show more joy over a great haircut than over the impending birth of his child.

“For narcissists, it’s not just that they love themselves,” DeLong says, “but it’s how others see them. Their image to others, to the world, is what’s really important. Most often, it’s a damning secret. Husbands and wives share things. They know more about each other than perhaps anyone else. And in a divorce, especially a nasty one, issues once locked away can go public in a hurry, shattering overnight reputations that took decades to build.

This is the one of the biggest problems with men equating Net Worth with Self Worth. Mens' self-esteems are taught to be performance based. The acquisition of material possessions and status. One of the good many things about being a woman, is our self-esteem is not based on the same factors. It's ok for a woman not to be rich..

As long as she's pretty. (That's another entry though).

Whatever happened to "cheaper to keep her?" Murdering a spouse is costly. Not just the financial ruin one could face, but what about emotional and karmic debts?

Don't get a gun, get a really good lawyer.

Women want to live fairie tales lives too. If we don't get them, by no means do we have the right to slit our man's throat. You live, you adjust. If you're still unhappy, you LEAVE, and I'm not referring to leaving Earth. Ladies beware:

Does your husband have lots of life insurance on you?
Is he eyeing boats or expensive cars?
Is he researching topics like "Tropical Retirement Locales" and he's only in his 30s or 40s?

If you can say yes to two or more of those questions and he's NOT independently wealthy..
Don't walk.

RUN.

And Ladies..

Don't threaten to tell his secrets when you break up. He's a cross dresser who wears your panties and lipstick, and uses your basement as his 'HappyPlace' for dress-up? How lovely! Offer him a few of your dresses.

THEN get divorced. You can tell his secrets in your book.

Don't ask for money. Ever. Pretend money is the last thing you care about. Tell him you're volunteered with Nicaraguan animal charities, and you've taken a vow of poverty. Giving you money would be an insult to God now wouldn't it?

Move far away, THEN get divorced. Let your greedy lawyer take half of his money while you hide in Central America.

Not sure if he's truly happy about your pregnancy? Tell him it's not your baby. You're merely acting as a surrogate for Beyonce's next child. The surrogate she used before is unavailable and Blue needs a sister.

Then have your baby in a town he's never heard of.

Yeah you heard right.

Seriously ladies. If your husband or boyfriend is extremely verbally abusive and/or hits you..

 He can also kill you. 

Get out of any unsafe relationship because women DO die. 

Threats are carried out, and some men would rather kill you than divorce you.

Keep your eyes and ears open and ALWAYS trust your gut. If there's no love in your relationship get out, because LOVE is for living..

Not murder.

WTS.

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MOSAIC Threat Assessment  - Gavin de Becker's tool to help determine if you're in danger or could be
Why Do They Kill? Men Who Murder Their Intimate Partners, by David Adams

Happy Friday

One of the best "tough woman" scenes of all time..

I was looking over her shoulder and saw her text:

"This isn't my first time at the rodeo with her, she tried to pull that with me too.."

Lol.

I don't know who "she" is or even what she did, but I haven't heard the "rodeo" expression in a long while. It immediately reminded me of the movie "Mommy Dearest." One of the best scenes of the movie is when during a board meeting, Pepsi tries to oust Joan Crawford (Faye Dunaway) from the Board of Directors. Her husband was recently deceased, and they were attempting to retire her.

She was not going to take it lying down. VERY not lying down.

Her facial expressions. The way her mouth twists. Her tone of voice.

Priceless.

#dontfuckwithmefellas

And check out those eyebrows. Woah.

Faye Dunaway, Bravo. This scene is genius. You completely owned it, hands down. Don't think so?


Watch..

Women belong in the bedroom and where?

Yessir.

The Boardroom!

Go Joan.
Go Faye.

Women take shits, but in some cases, women take NO shit.

I would not fuck with that woman ^^^ there. Not even a little.

Happy Friday.

Valentine's Day - The Blood of It

To all the lovers out there, surely this is a special day. Flowers galore. Chocolate and champagne (both of which I'm now allergic to) will surely be flowing in your bedroom tonight.

BUT,

For a sometimes -cynical-about-love- chick like me, fuk all that.

Oh what, you thought this entry was gonna be all cutesy-n-shit cuz it's Valentine's Day?



NOPE.

Valentine's Day experiences aren't always sweet.

With that being said, today we honor Valentine's Day by remembering one of our favorite movies,

1981's cult classic, "My Bloody Valentine".

This movie is corny, ultra-gory, and reeks of early 80's cheesiness.

So basically, it's genius.

A movie to curl up under the covers with your boyfriend, and scare the shit out of yourselves.

Happy Valentine's Day motherfuckers. Love you!

The small town of Valentine Bluffs is seen preparing for a Valentine's Day dance. The town is home to a coal mine where many of the local men work, both young and old. Hanniger, the town Mayor, discusses the Valentine's Day dance with a woman named Mabel Osborne, who runs a laundromat.

Mabel..You in danger girl..

 

Dryer Death scene

With the death of Mabel, the dance is cancelled. T.J. and his group of friends gather at the local bar, where they hear stories from the bartender about Harry Warden and his rampage.

Hanniger makes a vague reference to a past tragedy associated with Valentine's Day, and we learn that this is the first Valentine's dance to be held in decades. 20 years ago, a mining accident trapped five men underneath the ground. The accident was due to the negligence of two supervisors who were anxious to get to the Valentine's dance (Rushing to get some booty), having left their posts while the men were still below—Of the five men who were trapped in the explosion, four of them died. A survivor named Harry Warden was rescued, found in a state of mental collapse; the rescue took so long that Harry had resorted to cannibalism to survive, eating the bodies of his dead coworkers. A year later, Harry took his revenge on the two supervisors, killing them with a pick axe and cutting out their hearts, leaving them in decorative Valentine candy boxes and warning the town to never hold another Valentine's dance ever again or else he will keep killing should the warning not be followed.

Newby phones the mental institution where Harry Warden was incarcerated, but there is no trace of him there; his records are lost and his contact cannot tell Newby where Harry is or whatever became of him. Newby and Hanniger fear that Harry Warden has come back to continue his killing spree..

A young couple named John (Rob Stein) and Sylvia (Helene Udy) are making out in the shower area of the mine facility. When John leaves to go get beer, Sylvia is attacked by the miner, who first traps her by dropping miners' coveralls from the ceiling, then ambushes her and viciously impales her head on a shower nozzle.

 

One of the miners, Hollis (Keith Knight) allows some of the others to convince him to take them down into the mine. He heads down there with ...another couple, Michael (Thomas Kovacs) and Harriet (Terry Waterland).

While down there, Michael and Harriet go off into the engine room to make love, and the miner impales them with a large drill bit.

A flashback reveals Axel is the son of one of the supervisors murdered by Harry Warden. As a very young boy Axel was in the room and saw his father's violent death while hiding underneath the bed. The shock apparently snapped his mind, leaving him unstable, his potential for violence unleashed by the recurrence of the Valentine's dance.

The film ends as an insane Axel runs deeper into the mine singing "Daddy's gone away, Harry Warden made you pay" to himself. The screen fades to black and the audience can hear the sound of Harry Warden laughing, revealing that he is still alive and will get his revenge on the next Valentine's Day, but he stops as the credits roll and a ballad for Harry Warden plays with the credits.

More "My Bloody Valentine" death scenes

The corny, bloody, so bad they're funny death reels. #loveit

Have a good one everybody..

-WTS.

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Gentlemen Prefer Brunettes Too But..

Lorelei hit it on the head with this one.

#normajean

More Man Than You, More Woman Than You..

One of my favorite scenes.

From the movie Carwash, 1976. The scene where the very effeminately gay Lindy (Antonio Vargas) disses the ultra militant Duane (Bill Duke). After Duane calls Lindy a "Faggot," Lindy comes back with a classy one liner:

"I'm more man than you'll ever be, and more woman than you'll ever get!" *fingersnap*

I have to be honest.

I have felt that EXACT way on many occasion when dealing with certain guys.

But I digress.

Even as a man, Lindy is our kind of woman.

The magic starts at 0:34.

Enjoy.

Thank Heaven for Little Girls..

Good luck kiddo.