RoboMisogyny.. Yes, This is a Thing

RoboMisogyny.. Yes, This is a Thing

Robo: extracted from robot and meaning robotic.

Misogyny: noun; hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women, or prejudice against women.

Bots such as Apple's Siri, Amazon’s Alexa, Microsoft’s Cortana, and Google’s Google Home all show signs of extreme submissiveness. These docile natures not only reflect the feelings of dominance among men, but also reinforce the concept that women are to be made compliant.

Siri in particular, exhibits extreme signs of submissiveness and does what she is asked to do. She never has objections, she's never busy, and she's never preoccupied doing something for herself. In short, when you call upon Siri, she gives you the equivalent of,

"Yes Master."

By and large, people tend to respond more positively to women’s voices. And the brand managers and product designers tasked with developing voices for their companies are trying to reach the largest number of customers.

The late Stanford communications professor Clifford Nass, coauthored the field’s seminal book, Wired for Speech, wrote that people tend to perceive female voices as helping us solve our problems, so we are more likely to opt for a female interface. In the short term, female voices will likely remain more commonplace, because of cultural bias. 

Siri by the way, in Old Norse translates to “a beautiful woman who leads you to victory.”

Siri behaves much like a retrograde male fantasy of the ever-compliant secretary: discreet, understanding, willing to roll with any demand a man might come up with, teasingly accepting of dirty jokes and like the very definition of female subservience, indifferent to the needs of women.

We made this discovery one night while playing with Siri’s established willingness to look up prostitutes for a man in need. When we said to Siri, “I need a blow job,” she produced “nine escorts fairly close to you”. We got the same results when we said, “I’m horny” even with a very female voice. And if you should you need erection drugs to help you through your escort encounter, Siri is super helpful. She produced twenty nearby drugstores where Viagra could be purchased, though how -- without a prescription -- is hard to imagine. We tried mouth-based words -- such as “lick” “eat”  and even an alternate name for "cat" and for each one, Siri was confused and kept coming up with a name of a male friend in my contacts. Of course, one could argue that Siri knows something about him that I don’t, but that's another story.

More troubling, was Siri’s inability to generate decent results related to women’s reproductive health. When asked where to find birth control, she only came up with a clinic nearly four miles away that happened to have the words “birth control” in the name. She didn't name any of the helpful drugstores that stock condoms or birth control options.

The results when asked for abortion info were even worse. Though Planned Parenthood performs abortions (and there was one in my neighborhood), Siri claimed it had no knowledge of any abortion clinics in the area. Other women running similar trials have had the same problem if not worse. In some cases, Siri suggested crisis pregnancy centers when you mention the word “abortion." This was especially suspect seeing as how CPCs don’t provide abortions. They're established solely to lure unsuspecting women and bully them out of the choice to abort.

In response to complaints about this, Apple spokeswoman Natalie Kerris explained, “These are not intentional omissions meant to offend anyone.” We don't feel that the programmers behind Siri are out to get women. The issue is that the very real and frequent concerns of women simply didn’t rise to the level of priority for these programmers. Facts such as exponentially more women will seek abortion in their lives than men will seek prostitutes, and more women use contraception than men use Viagra. With that being said, programmers were still more concerned with making sure the word “horny” puts you in contact with an illegal prostitute, than with the word “abortion” putting you in contact with a place that could legally (and safely) perform them.

Siri is an example of how hearing a woman's voice was important, but the actual needs of women were not. Programmers clearly imagined a straight male user as their ideal and neglected to remember nearly half of iPhone users are women. That a tech company that’s the standard for progressive, innovative,and user-friendly technology couldn’t bother to care about the concerns of half the human race speaks to a sexism that’s so interwoven into the fabric of our society, it’s nearly invisible. 

It’s a sexism that only reveals itself in the absurd.

Kinda like when you’re asking a phone what it would take for you to get a little lovin around here.

What's your opinion? Is this a reach or is this form of sexism valid?

Is this even sexism?

Post your thoughts in the comments, we'd love to hear from you.

Thanks all.

WTS.

Apple's sexist work environment

Siri and Cortana sound like women because of sexism

For Shits and Giggles
Cuz Forbes magazine said so
Siri's submissive ass

5 Key Mistakes Men Make When Dating

Dating can be fun or it can a nightmare. One never knows if the date they're on will lead to marriage or a restraining order, but still we play the game. Dinners, movies, flowers, drinks. None of this will make a difference if men commit any of the key mistakes below. Better than mistakes, they're deal breakers.

Women know when men aren't being themselves.
Women know when men aren't confident (even though we don't mention it).

We don't mention it because we also know your egos have the strength of rice paper.

But we still love you! So just be yourself and be confident! You know, the way you are with your guy friends.

Just don't talk about football.

Or pick your nose.

-WTS.


1) You Don't Have A Plan

Women are attracted to men with vision. They like a man who can be assertive and knows how to handle his business. The man that shows he is capable of taking the lead in a situation will be able to grab a woman's attention. So when she asks "so where are you taking me?" Answering her with "uugghh I don't know, where do you want to go?" in most cases is already starting off on the wrong foot. Have a plan in place... but just remain flexible if it doesn't work for her. You also should be able to show you have a plan for your life. You don't have to present some 10 year vision, but be able to express some short term goals and aspirations. Don't come off looking like a boy that is lost or you may constantly find yourself as a man that's alone.


2) You Aren't Confident

Maybe you're nervous around your date. Maybe you fear she won't enjoy herself or that you will do something to blow your chances. Either way, going into dating thinking like this makes it more likely things won't go well. Women are drawn to confidence and focusing on the negative will hinder your positive energy from shining through. So shake it off and get your mind on the right track. Be confident but don't be arrogant. Focus on having a great time and there is a much better chance she will as well.


3) You're Not Being Yourself

Sometimes we want to impress a woman so much that we end up trying to be someone we're not. Getting her under the guise of your "representative" may create immediate results, but you will pay a price in the long run. Not to mention it can all backfire that same day because you come off as phony and trying too hard. So just be yourself. She needs to like you as the man you are. A man who can acknowledge and embrace the areas that could use improvement in his life. If the current man you are isn't "enough" for most, then take some more time to focus on your growth. That will yield much better results than trying to be someone else in the meantime.

4) You Talk About Sex Too Much

If you truly want to have a relationship then you have to stop always making the conversation so sexual. You don't want to make it seem like you're only interested in one thing or that you're unable to hold a good conversation. It isn't that this topic should be off limits altogether, but don't always be the one to set it in that direction. This is the time to go deeper than the physical and see if you two really do connect and enjoy each other. I would even encourage you to avoid having sex too quickly with her. I understand that this sounds ridiculous to some, but hear me out. If she's good sexually, then a man's judgment can become very clouded. You may find yourself holding on to her for the wrong reasons which will eventually lead to a failed relationship. Focus on substance, not sex.

5) You Don't Ask About Her Enough (yes HER, remember HER?)

Don't go into dating as if it is an audition. Approach it more like it is an interview. You should be trying to get to know this woman and determine if she truly is someone you want to move forward with. You can't accomplish that if you are too busy talking about you, you, and you some more. How many times does she really need to hear about that business deal you're doing, or how you stay in the gym cause you're so buff, or whatever else you think is going to impress her. Making it all about you will run the risk of quickly turning her off. Make a conscious effort to ask about how she is doing. Give her an opportunity to share her thoughts and dreams. If you ever find yourself rambling on for too long then stop yourself and say "well enough about me, tell me more about you". Be willing to talk and share things about yourself but you shouldn't let it dominate the dating process.

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Women Who Ran for US President

I'm not a big fan of Hillary Clinton. In fact, I'm not even a small fan. I think she's a conniving opportunist who may or may not even be human. True, this could describe most politicians, but HC has her own classification entirely.

But maybe that's that's just my opinion.

Despite her baby kissing, handshaking, hot sauce carrying political campaign, Hillary's running for president though historic, is not the first of it's kind.  There were other brave estrogenated souls who made the attempt at becoming leader of the free world. The first of those being,

Victoria Woodhull

The first valiant undertaking by a woman to run for US presidency was in 1872. 34 year old Victoria

Woodhull ran under the Equal Rights Party. Her platform was universal suffrage, political reform, civil rights and social welfare. The irony of her bid for office was that in 1872, the Nineteenth Amendment hadn't yet been passed. Though a woman was running for president, women couldn't vote in presidential elections. Her running mate was none other than abolitionist Frederick Douglas, whom also made history as the first Black person ever nominated for Vice President. 

A fierce believer in free love, Victoria hated how society condemned liberated women. Her campaign suffered a fatal blow when she was arrested on obscenity charges for writing an article about an adulterous love affair between a powerful minister, and a parishioner just days before the election. With no votes for her recorded, historians can’t agree on whether her name actually appeared on nationwide ballots or whether she simply received no votes. Yays or nays aside, it was still incredibly daring of her to run. 

Gracie Allen

In 1940 Gracie Allen ran under the Surprise Party. Her platform was “Redwood, trimmed with nutty pine.” Her presidential run started as a stunt to generate publicity for her faltering radio show, the The Hinds Honey & Almond Cream Program Starring George Burns & Gracie Allen. During her satirical campaign, Allen used her ditzy persona to poke fun at the political system. The campaign included a mock party convention, a national whistle stop tour, an endorsement from Harvard University and an invitation from Eleanor Roosevelt to speak to the National Women’s Press Club.

“My opponents say they’re going to fight me ’til the cows come home,” she said in a campaign speech. “So, they admit the cows aren’t home. Why aren’t the cows home? Because they don’t like the conditions on the farm. The cows are smart. They’re not coming home ’til there’s a woman in the White House.” Though Allen did receive write-in votes, historians can’t agree on the number.

Shirley Chisholm

In 1972, Brooklyn native Shirley Chisholm ran under the Democratic Party. Her platform was equal rights and economic justice. She had already made history as the first Black woman elected to Congress in 1968, though she admitted that “sometimes I have trouble, myself, believing that I made it this far against the odds.

Chisholm called herself “the candidate of the people,” but struggled for acceptance as a viable candidate. Her motto was "Unbossed and Unbought" as Shirley was staunchly against corruption in politics. Though energetically motivated and promising, her disorganized and underfunded campaign didn’t help her efforts. She was fourth place for the nomination at the Democratic National Convention (she received 152 delegate votes in the Democratic primary) but lost to Governor George McGovern (who in turn lost to Richard Nixon). Though Chisholm was not the first woman to vie for the Democratic nomination, she was the most viable up until that time. Chisholm is still much respected for her political role and appeared on a stamp in 2014.

Linda Jenness

In 1972, presidential hopeful Linda Jenness ran to become the coveted Chief of Staff under the Socialist Workers Party. Her platform was Women’s liberation and no more war in Vietnam. A secretary from Atlanta, Jenness shared the nomination with another female candidate, Evelyn Reed, who ran in her place in states where Jenness did not qualify for the ballot due to her age. At 31, she didn't meet the US Presidency Age for Candidacy requirement of being being at least 35.

Though Jenness repeatedly challenged Democratic nominee George McGovern to a debate, he refused. Jenness predicted her own defeat, declaring that “the Socialists do not fool themselves that they have a chance of winning any major victories this year.” She was right—but she still managed to garner over 83,380 votes despite tepid press and struggles to finance her campaign.

Jill Stein

As recent as 2012, Jill Stein ran under the Green Party. Her platform was Green jobs and environmental protections. As a third-party candidate in a raucous election year, Jill Stein’s 2012 presidential run felt more like an afterthought than a milestone. But in fact, Stein’s presidential candidacy was the most successful ever conducted by a woman up until that time.

A physician who specializes in environmental health, Stein ran for president after two unsuccessful bids for the office of governor of Massachusetts. “People ask me why I keep fighting political battles in a rigged system,” she said in a 2012 speech. “The answer is simple. I keep fighting because when it comes to our children, mothers don’t give up.” Though Stein only managed to grab 0.36 percent of the popular vote (469,015 votes), she never gave up. She is currently running in the 2016 election, and you can visit her campaign page here. 

Long before Hillary, American women set their sights on the Oval Office. Whether it was to bolster a radio show, or to fight for their children, women have stood in the presidential race with pride, strength and insight. Not sure why the US is so behind the times when it comes to having a woman in charge. Britain had Margaret Thatcher, Israel had Golda Meir, India had Indira Gandhi, Germany has Angela Merkel. The bonds of patriarchy and male domination run deep and wide on American soil. There's one fact that cancels out any battle of wills when it comes to allowing women to make global political decisions..

Women truly do run the world..

With or without elections.

WTS.

Shirley Chisolm, Presidential Campaign Announcement

When the Rest of the World Elected Their First Women Leaders
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Women and Chess: New Movie Starring Lupita Nyongo

Queen of Katwe is the colorful true story of a young girl selling corn on the streets of rural Uganda whose world rapidly changes when she is introduced to the game of chess, and, as a result of the support she receives from her family and community, is instilled with the confidence and determination she needs to pursue her dream of becoming an international chess champion. Directed by Mira Nair (Monsoon Wedding) from a screenplay by William Wheeler (The Hoax) based on the book by Tim Crothers, Queen of Katwe is produced by Lydia Dean Pilcher (The Darjeeling Limited) and John Carls (Where the Wild Things Are) with Will Weiske and Troy Buder serving as executive producers. The film stars Golden Globe® nominee David Oyelowo (Selma), Oscar® winner and Tony Award® nominee Lupita Nyong'o (12 Years a Slave) and newcomer Madina Nalwanga.

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And Justice For All..

The Supreme Court would probably be more fair as well. #ruthginsburg

New Trend Alert: FREE BLEEDING

Let me just start this by saying NO fucking way. I'm all for the complete freedom of women, but this is messy, unsanitary, unhealthy, and disturbing. Not to mention this could become quite an expensive choice as clothes, furniture, underwear, beds, etc., become ruined. Blood may flow easily out of bodies, but it's hell to get out of fabrics. And suppose you have a disease? Your putting people in harms way could cause you to not only to infect others, but um..

Get sued by them. This is such a bad idea all round.

Who thought up this madness?

Some bored, over zealous college student probably.

Just No Ladies, NO.

Now for the story.

MODERN WOMAN DIGEST – A disturbing new trend is on the rise, thanks to extreme feminist bloggers and activists everywhere. The trend is something called “Free Bleeding,” in which a woman who is menstruating chooses to not use feminine products, in exchange for allowing her blood to flow “freely” out of her body, staining her clothing and running down her thighs to wherever it may end up.

The idea behind this movement is two different ideas. One, is that a woman’s time of the month should not be considered something unclean and unnatural, something to be hidden and cleaned up hastily before it has the chance to offend anyone who may become privy to the fact that said woman’s body is evacuating her loins of unused baby blood. The second, being that tampons, pads, and other feminine hygiene products are “man” made inventions, intended to inadvertently rape a woman during her period, thus furthering her victim status as a woman living in a world run by men. These two reasons combined, have produced the idea that women need to make a stand against the practice of wearing products which collect, absorb, and discard the menstrual flow. That by letting it run freely, is the way nature intended us to deal with our monthly.

For any normal woman, however, this idea is horrifying, and for equally as many reasons as the idea is spoken in favor of. If you’re like myself, a proud, intelligent, educated, and body-conscious woman of modern times, the reasons why this is a bad and ugly practice are quite apparent to you. But for those of you who are not blessed with the acute observational skills such as myself, I will gladly share my wisdom with you.

Firstly, this is not “how nature intended” us to deal with our menstrual discharge. If this was the case, nature would never have given us the enlightenment that we were to cover our bodies to begin with. Animals of lesser intelligence run around naked and without the use of proper tools to make their lives easier because they are just that, of lesser intelligence. Nature intended us to be vastly intelligent, and to use our intelligence to overcome our flaws. In our case, it has given us humans the advanced technological know-how to invent specific products to make our monthly easier to manage. Animals urinate, defecate, and bleed all over themselves and each other. We generally would like to think we’re above that kind of behavior. But not in the case of these Feminists, it would seem. 

Second, the female reproductive system is host to over 7000 types of bacteria, some of which are helpful to the system, but many of which are not. These bacteria work together to create the odor and excretions that the female genitalia has been notoriously known for. As women, we need all the extra help we can get to remain clean “down there." Without the help of the many feminine hygiene products that are now available to us, our special place could be an intolerable wasteland of unbearable odors, discharge, and build up. The fact that Feminists see no problem with adding blood and other types of monthly discharge to the mix is not only disgusting, but alarming and unhealthy.

You're urged to disregard and reject this new hardcore feminist trend, both for your own health and the health of those around you. If you happen to come in contact with a Feminist who tries to push this disgusting idea on you, throw a tampon at them and run away as fast as you can.

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7 Simple Ways to Connect to your Divine Feminine

Make no mistake, the "Divine Feminine" is in no way a "women only" concept. We all have masculine and feminine energy within us.

In yoga these energies are known as Shiva and Shakti, Yin and Yang, Ida and Pingala. The left side of the body relates to the feminine and the right side, the masculine.

Honoring and connecting to the Divine Feminine is an act of worship, not only to oneself, but also to the Divine Mother — the essence of all creation and the God of your own distinct understanding of the universe. It is a sacred connection to Mother Earth and to the very energy of giving birth … to ideas, expressions, dreams, life and existence.

The Divine Feminine is a part of us all. Here are seven simple practices to draw yourself closer to this inherent energy:

1. Connect your bare feet to Mother Earth. 

Connecting the soles of our feet to the earth is deeply grounding and steadying, especially for women. Tapping into the inherent Divine feminine channel within, this practice of joining bare feet with Mother Earth is so essential to our overall well-being.

You can also try laying face down on the earth with your arms wide and elbows bent at 90 degrees, with your fingertips to the ground. Known by many yogis as Gecko Pose, the whole body will feel a re-energizing charge, especially the womb and heart space, with the vibrational frequency of Mother Earth. A perfect mantra for this earth body worship is, "May we ever protect and care for Her, may we ever love Her, may we ever bathe in Her radiance. Jai MA."

2. Use pink Himalayan salt lamps. 

The soft, sultry pink glow of these healing lamps not only activate the Divine Feminine within, they also purify the air, create negative ions, help reduce harmful electromagnetic fields (EMFs) and truly support an uplifted mood.

3. Experiment with an oracle deck.

These amazing decks come with instructions as to how to use, cleanse, consecrate and empower them. They can help provide answers for deep questions, or you can just draw one card as inspiration and meditation for the day.

Learning to hear and harness messages from the angels, archangels and beyond, and how to make one's own body a conduit of Divine energy, is a palpable way to connect to the vibration of Divine Femininity.

4. Tap into the power of healing crystals.

Crystals are not just a component of modern day alternative medicine. They have been used for centuries for protection and healing.

Kunzite is a lovely pink crystal associated with the Heart Chakra and the element water, known for activation of the heart's knowing, emotional healing and vibration of Divine Love. Rose Quartz is famed for emotional healing and soothing, and is also a lovely pink.

Amazonite, on the other hand, is a gorgeous turquoise and its properties suit its fiercely exotic name. This incredible stone is known to merge the feminine and warrior energies, both of which exist within us all. It's a very empowering stone. Balancing female and male energies within the body is imperative, as we must know how to harness both.

5. Tune into the lunar cycle.

Pay attention to where Grandmother Moon is in her transit and also in your chart, so you can familiarize yourself with your own moon cycle each month. Knowing when the new moon occurs and how to respond (intention setting, quieting, going inward), when the full moon is coming (amplified energy, manifestation of intentions, highly vibrational) and also paying mind to the solstices, equinoxes, eclipses and astrological influences on the moon, can deepen your connection to the sacred Feminine.

5. Practice radical self-care.

This one is really self-explanatory. Treat your inner Priestess and Warrior like royalty! Take an epsom salt bath by candlelight, or lie down on your back for some legs up the wall after a long day. Journal your dreams and fears and intentions, sip tea and read a good book to unwind, take a mental health day and get out in nature to breathe more deeply. Anything that feels delicious and nourishing, do that.

6. Celebrate the beauty of all things.

See the opportunity for beauty everywhere. Create beauty wherever you go. Decorate yourself as you see fit.

Create a sacred sanctuary in your home, whether it's a corner or an entire room, and devote that space to beauty and the practice of presence. Give it texture, color and fragrance. Opt for hues of red, pink and purple to imbue femininity and sensuality. Turquoise and blue calls forth wisdom. White and gold draw the essence of Divine Light into your sphere.  Embrace and honor the ancient tradition of adornment as means of celebration, rather than ego. Let beauty feed your senses.

7. Construct altars wherever you are.

Whether it's your traditional altar, your bedside night table, your work desk, the front of your yoga mat or practice space, the dinner table, your backyard … the options are endless. Consecrate your immediate space by making it a sacred space.

Use crystals, trinkets, Buddhas, jewelry, mala beads, stones — whatever calls to your Spirit. Give your space a blessing. Ask your altar to serve a purpose for you, like blessing a bedside altar with the intention for peaceful, calming dreams. 

Invite the Divine Feminine into your realm at every turn, wherever you are. Let her healing vibration balance you, nourish you and sustain you. After all, you carry this energy within you everywhere you go.



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10 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex

Hello Readers. Happy New Year my loves. There are many "What men want" lists out there, but you know me. I take what I post very seriously (because YOU'LL be reading it), so I did my own research on this article before posting. The consensus amongst my guy friends is that the 10 things listed here are very accurate.


Freud called female sexuality “the dark continent”; if that’s true, male sexuality could qualify as the dark planet. But when it comes to sex, guys are simple, right? Not true. The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, and as such, what you see and hear is typically the role, not the reality. It’s no wonder, in trying to please the actor, a woman loses sight of a guy’s true identity. Here are 10 “unmasking” facts you may want to know:

1. We Respond to Praise 

It’s believed that men are so consumed by our libido that we have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look), and after (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look naked). Along those lines, men worry about the size of their guts (and other measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Try to be extra affirming about those sensitivities.

2. We Fear Intimacy..

..but not for the reason you think! Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. At that time, social repression begins—of words, thoughts, feelings—and our desire for human connection goes underground. So taboo is this desire for intimacy that its possibility can terrify men—not because it’s smothering, but because we realize how desperate we are for it. What’s a woman to do? First, understand that your guy’s hasty retreat post-sex may be about his own shock at how much he craves a connection with you (and how much he’s denied it in life). Then, retreat a little yourself. This gives him time to see that his boyhood habits are, in fact, perfectly manly.

3. We Appreciate Sex for Sex’s Sake

Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the right medicine. According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist and sexologist, “Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her.” On occasion, try letting him ravish you.

4. We Are Not Just Our.. 

The penis gets all the press, but men have “many erogenous zones,” says psychologist Melodie Schaefer, PsyD. “Men tend not to correct women because they’re afraid women will shut down and not touch them at all. But there are many places a woman should touch.” Like the chest, the inner thighs and face. Two other key areas: Gently gripping a man’s testicles can be a real turn-on, as it blends control with release. Also, stimulating the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.

5. We Encourage Fantasies

“Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them,” says Dr. Kort. Similarly, Dr. Schaefer reports that men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, Dr. Kort recommends asking the author a key question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.

6. We Like It When You Talk

Talking during sex stimulates more than our ears. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and instructive are great starts. As amusing as it may sound, a woman’s words can make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, even if he’s a suburban banker.

7. We Need Your Honesty

Sex can solve the stresses of a relationship, but it’s often where the stresses show up. If we complain
about a lack of sex (or your doing certain things only on our birthday), we may be overlooking serious issues that underpin such withholding. We need you to enlighten us. The male ego is often tied to sex, so it’s easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than issues we have a part in. Avoiding these problems, however, only perpetuates your feeling unseen and our frustration.

8. We Enjoy the Dance

Men like a good quest; unfortunately, these days, there are so few. But romance earns that distinction. Allow us to court you; make us deserve your desire. Dr. Kort makes an additional point: “Emotional intimacy is about closeness, but sustaining sexual desire demands a certain amount of distance.” How do couples strike this tricky balance? By allowing each partner to have what he calls “separate sexuality”: a sexual life that doesn’t include, but doesn’t betray, the other. “For him, that might mean allowing his wife to use toys or letting other men look at her; for her, it might be permitting him to watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy.” Such indulgences help maintain the balance of desire and devotion for both parties.

9. We Can Explain Pornography

Finding a spouse using pornography is a top reason couples seek counsel, says Dr. Kort, but it
shouldn’t be overreacted to or pathologized. A few things to clear up: 1. Sex addicts represent only 4 percent of the population, so it’s unlikely your man is one. 2. Because childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very idiosyncratic about what turns them on. In other words, says Dr. Kort, “no woman can, nor should she, be everything to a man.” Still, the question remains: How does a woman not take pornography personally? First, determine if your mate is compulsive, or can only have sex, with pornography. If so, you may want to seek counseling. If not, Dr. Kort recommends taking the secrecy out of pornography by discussing it. Use the lens of “what about it turns him on versus what turns you off.” That way, a dialogue is created that allows for honesty, dignity and closeness.

10. We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think

Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this. “Men see sex as a celebration,” says Dr. Schaefer. “They wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. It’s easy to allow demands on our time and energy to rob us of the joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords us. On the long list of priorities, it should not be on the bottom rung.” If that doesn’t make you want to “seize the day” (or something else), consider the health benefits: Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone,” bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing.

If none of these tips help, you can always read this book. The reviews are pretty positive.

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Moody Bitches

HBO is teaming with Diablo Cody and Oprah Winfrey to explore "moody bitches."

The premium cable network is developing an untitled comedy based on Dr. Julie Holland's upcoming book, Moody Bitches.

Holland's book -- Moody Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You're Taking, the Sex You're Not Having, The Sleep You're Missing and What's Really Making You Crazy -- explores the pros and cons of the drugs people are being offered as well as some surprising and highly effective natural therapies. HBO's take, which is inspired by Holland's source material, will "expose the truth about the drugs you're taking, the sex you're not having, the sleep you're missing and what's really making you crazy."

Cody -- who will be credited as a creator on the potential series -- will pen the script and executive produce alongside Winfrey and her Harpo Films banner. Harpo first inked a long-term pact with HBO in late 2008 to develop movies, miniseries, documentaries and scripted series for the premium cabler. Holland will be credited as a co-exec producer.

The untitled Cody comedy marks Harpo's latest scripted project at HBO. It joins These Things Happen, a modern family comedy based on Richard Kramer's (My So-Called Life) novel of the same name, and last year's untitled drama about the first black president at a prestigious liberal arts college.

For Cody, the project becomes the Juno Oscar-winning screenwriter's latest small-screen sale. Cody also has Prodigy, a teen drama set up at Fox with Fake Empire's Josh Schwartz and Stephanie Savage. In addition, the United States of Tara alum also has her TBS talk show pilot, Me Time With Diablo Cody, in the works and last year developed comedy Alex + Amy for ABC.

Moody Bitches becomes the latest work from psychiatrist/author Holland to get the small-screen treatment. Her 2010 book Weekends at Bellevue: Nine Years on the Night Shift at the Psych ER was adapted at Fox and went to pilot in 2011. The Janet McTeer and Lauren Ambrose drama did not move forward. A publication date for Moody Bitches has not yet been announced.

What if God Was One of Us..

We're going to try something new today. Humor me folks, go with it.

Today, whatever name you call it, I want you to thank God for whatever you're thankful for.

Your health,
job,
relationships,
the fact that you made it to work on time after being warned.

Whatever gave you a "whew!" moment or brought you even an inkling of relief,

Say aloud, "Thank you God."

Now here comes the experiment.

Envision that God smiles when you say your "thank you."

God hi-fives you.

God is happy with your acknowledgement. Happy?

No wait,

You just made God's day!

God loves you.

I mean freakin LOVES you Dammit!

Feel the glow. The warmth. The everlasting emotional sunshine God emits.

Now picture that GOD,


IS A WOMAN.

:oO

Long haired.
Afro'd.
Freckles.
Whatever female image your mind comes up with.

Run with it.

Fun huh?

Do this as many times as you can. It's called, EXPANSION.

In the words of Sly and the Family Stone,

"Free your mind, and your ass will follow."

With that being said,

Take it away Hugh..

Hugh Cornwell "God is a Woman" video from Hugh Cornwell on Vimeo.

When Ass Kissing Is OK..

It's acceptable to kiss ass if..





it's rainbow sprinkled.

I can't think of any other times..


Can you?

The Only Time A Woman Can Get Ready in 5 Minutes..

TRUTH!

WTS Salute: GHANDI

In this blog, we showcase the achievements of WOMEN. 

However, exceptions can be made.

Today marks the 65th anniversary of Mahatma Gandhi's assassination.

Children dressed like Mahatma Gandhi assemble at an event to mark his death anniversary in Chennai.

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi, October 2, 1869 - January 30, 1948.

  

WTS.

Nature is So Female..

They don't call it 'Mother Nature' for nothing..

Somewhere between Arizona and Colorado

Hello?.. Mom?

China

China again..

Chinese tourists

Rock Arches National Park

Vagina Tree - Thailand

So the men don't feel left out..

Carefree, Arizona

Gaung Dong Penis Rock

And a lil something for all of us..

And it's not just caves and rock formations..

Affectionately known as Hooker’s lips, Psychotria Elata with its colorful red flowers Native to Tropical America. This specimen was found in Manuel Antonio, Costa Rica. (source: calypsoislandtours.com)

No photoshop at all, thankyouverymuch. Human bodies have many similarities to Nature. Anything that is alive is connected. The sooner we all know and believe this, the better off the planet will be.

-WTS